Compromise...Really?

I have been thinking about this word which we use quite often. Especially after I heard someone speak about it Last Sunday. Well it is a quality which is held in high regard by many who are considered wise and experienced. So much so that some people say that it is a way of life. And now I have a feeling I too am doing that and compromising what I want to say.

I wonder why people say that compromising is a must or what is even worse that it is a good thing.
Is life so strewn with difficulties that we can't take decisions that we want to? Or is it because we are looking for the easy way out of things?

Maybe I have got the usage of the word wrong and will now try to make clear the compromise I am talking about. The compromise I am talking about is the way people allow circumstances to take control of them and not actually make decisions. The dilutions of one's values for a percieved gain(be they material or emotional) is what I would call a compromise. Failing to voice out one's thoughts when one hears something that one thinks is wrong is also a form of compromise( and cowardice).

The fact that we bow to pressure of the moment rather than depend on the lessons which experience has taught us, is something which might seem innocuous but is a step towards the making of a person who is becoming what the person does not want to be. And then we know that what we have done is cowardly but then it becomes a habit. We go on compromising and we longer are the persons we once were.
I know that one can argue that we sometimes do change for the better but that is different because at that time we make a conscious decision and we take a different kind of decision because we feel and realise that the way we have been going isn't really right. It isn't just a flowing in the direction that the stream is taking us but thinking and deciding.
So what exactly am I railing against? I am not saying we shouldn't try to understand and comfort others but failing to respond in the way which you know is right is downright cowardly.I am not against giving in to the likes of a loved one but to give up your values and your whole bing at the time of making a choice is what bugs me.
When one also lets things shape him rather than the person shaping the things around the situation after sometime is one which would lead to trouble. Even though it appears to be an admirable thing to allow things to the way they are it just another case of us being afraid to the situation head on.

It is this compromising which has allowed our country to reach the present state where people who would otherwise consider themselves to be strict when it comes to morals turn a blind eye to corruption. A case in point being the use of fake documents to get things done. Another thing which doesn't seem to be a big deal many people even of my generation seem to have a different birthday for the register. What exactly are we trying to achieve?

I have more to say about that but I have a feeling that I have sidetracked a bit in corruption but compromising leads to corruption.

So why do I have so much against compromising? I think that should be bit obvious but still to state the obvious. At a personal level it leads to the sapping of the person who is being shaped. It leads to dwarfing of personalities which could have blossomed into things of even more beauty. One might still be a good person but the true potential is not realised because of the tendency not to go with the heart and the mind. And at the community level we can see for oursleves each day what compromise leads to.

I still haven't put out everything which was in my mind but at this point of time I think this is enough but probably there would be more later.( who cares? but I hope I keep blogging)

So ................UNCOMPROMISE........... BE YOUR TRUE SELF AND THE WAY YOU WANT YOUR TRUE SELF TO BE(Sounds cliched,I know but need to take the message to heart)